Clients often come to counselling saying they are in “crisis”. Mainly, this tends to mean one of two things:
It could be that my ‘crisis’ is that I am at an extremely important time in my life deciding how I want to change – a ‘crossroads’ so to speak where a client needs to address personal change. This meaning of ‘crisis’ here would not endanger life, be that your own or anyone else around you and would not involve dangerous behaviours either (impulsivity from alcohol or drugs for example). The thought here might be ‘would I be missed by those around me’ and this is a normal emotional response to life distress, a normal emotional thought– but note it is not ‘actively’ anything more than this. Counselling is extremely helpful in these circumstances and can be safely undertaken at your pace to understand this.
However, the other definition of crisis is when a client feels extremely vulnerable and suicidal thinking and dangerous self-harm is highly active right now. We might think of this as not just emotionality but a real intentionality to endanger life, even if this may be linked to impulsivity (e.g. fuelled by substances such as alcohol or drugs). In these circumstances it is crucial that you seek other support first to ground yourself for any further counselling you may be looking for. Such medical care is always your responsibility along with your GP. Other ways of obtaining ‘emergency support’ are listed in the blue text area on this page.
WAYS TO OBTAIN SUPPORT
Call your GP to book an urgent appointment or
Call NHS 111 and ask for crisis support (24 hrs) or
Go to any A&E department
There is always support 24 hours a day through the Samaritans on 116123 (www.samaritans.org) who offer emotional support as well “crisis” support or
Call the Sussex Mental Health Helpline on 0800 0309 500 or
Use the StayAlive app (via Google Play, App store or www.stayalive.app)
CALM - https://calmharm.co.uk/
Brain – This is a video of how the young brain develops in utero and after birth and often forms the principles of emotional relating here often form a significant part of my work
Logical Brain – this is a fascinating look at how our “logical brain” often takes over from some of the emotional communication and self-compassion we need to show ourselves:
Other Resources: Sleep, Anger Management, Women’s Aid
National Sleep Helpline - This is a free helpline run by trained sleep advisors who can talk to young people directly, or parents (they can also talk to parents about their own sleep issues).
The helpline is open 5 nights a week, Sunday to Thursday 7-9pm and the number is 03303 530 541.
The Men & Masculinities programme is designed to deepen men’s understanding of themselves and their relationships. It is free and accessible for any men who are aware that their relationships have become distressing and damaged by their abusive behaviour, violence or issues of coercive control. The programme will work with a range of clients including those that have substance misuse and or mental health issues. The programme also offers a linked (ex-) partner support service upon referral