ONLINE GRIEF COUNSELLING - THE FIRST STEP
I have a very simple view of online grief counselling – it is first and foremost about 2 human beings being together and in contact with each other. Two equals seeking an understanding of what is going on for you at this difficult moment in your lives. At your pace. Respectfully. With kindness and humility.
In the rest of this web site you will find more about my way of working, training and ways of working in counselling too if that helps you. Here though, let us simply recognise that we are are first of all simply ‘human’ - be reassured that if you feel what you need most of all in grief counselling is a fellow human being to sit with you in your difficult times or distress, to hear you and be alongside you without judgement, I will do this with you.
THE BENEFITS OF ONLINE GRIEF COUNSELLING
Online counselling can be a powerful way to cope with grief and loss, as it provides a safe space for you to express your emotions without judgement. Grief counselling online is also accessible at any time, allowing you to access help whenever they need it.
Through online grief counselling, you can explore your feelings in familiar settings whilst I provide support and guidance for you to work through your feelings of grief in a safe and secure environment.
Furthermore, online counselling offers the opportunity to talk to a professional who understands what you're going through. This can be especially helpful if you don't feel comfortable talking about your emotions with family or friends. It is also important to note that online grief counselling does not replace in-person grief counsellors as it is important to seek professional help if you feel overwhelmed with your emotions or unable to cope.
At the end of the day, online grief counselling can be an effective tool to help those who are grieving process their loss and move on. It allows people to get the support they need while remaining comfortable in their own environment.
Always be kind to yourself.
Without self-compassion it is hard to make sense of Self and life.
Gently remember we are shaped and impacted by all of our experiences in life, the accumulation of that load we carry, those we are aware of and unaware of yet somehow ‘feel’ - and these more difficult even hidden ones can simply catch up with us.
ONLINE GRIEF COUNSELLING - helping you to find clarity
All of our accumulated life experiences in utero and from birth, toddlerhood, parenting, early school, later school, teachers, siblings, role models (including the absence of these), key relationships, work experiences and colleagues, difficult managers, loss of employment and friends, ill health, all of our wider life losses/ bereavements and adjustments, traumas, loss of our sense of Self, our Self Worth, confidence, the masks we wear to avoid vulnerability, the things we believe we cannot say as we walk on egg shells, hidden beliefs and responses (I ‘should/ ought /must’), ‘I am not loveable, I am a failure’, drive for perfectionism that blocks out 'being' and many more bend and buckle us till we become drained or flooded.
All therapy is at some level this conflict that ‘who I really am is not the person on show’. In this society we tend to ruminate in our heads – but the truth is our body, soul and heart feels this too. You are reading this because your instinct knows you perhaps need to do something differently in life. If you want that, I can help you.
Carl Rogers (a founder of the Person-centred tradition) said “When the other person is hurting, confused, troubled, anxious, alienated, terrified; or when he/she is doubtful of self-worth, uncertain as to identity, then understanding is called for. This gentle and sensitive companionship … provides illumination and healing. In such situations deep understanding is .. the most precious gift one can give to another”.
I live and work in Horsham, West Sussex and currently offer online grief counselling (as well as video and telephone grief counselling).